when i went out today without the 12 year old because he's too embarrassed to hang out with his mom and his little sisters', i bought him a book. and when i brought it home and gave it to him he barely noticed because he was too busy on his computer game, and i think probably embarrassed that his mom bought him a book. did he have to read it? was it required summer reading? but that choice i made tonight about staying home with the kids, skipping my ride, organizing the office and cleaning the fridge? turned out to be a good one.
the fridge still has rotting zucchini in it, and there are un-filed papers all over the office. but i made a delicious dinner that the kids and i sat down to enjoy together that was not mac & cheese. and after dinner, my 12 year old (voluntarily) sat on the couch to read the new book i bought him. (and mostly, this is because the computer is out of commission due to the fact that the fan on the computer was working overtime to compensate for the fact that for some reason the heat is cranked in this office & will not go off). so i sat next to him while he read the book his embarrassing mom bought him with the new book i bought myself and tried not to look like i was hanging out with him. we were just two people reading books. separately but together. he giggled and shared funny tidbits from his book. he inched closer to me. said the boy in book could be him. which he said disturbed him a bit because of the title. but still. he liked it. we laughed together.
i knew he'd like it. these windows of opportunity of hanging out with your 12 year old and them actually enjoying it are few and far between. i'm glad i didn't go for that ride.